We got ghosted

I thought that getting ghosted was something that only happened to people in the dating world, really only people on apps like tinder. Turns out I was very wrong. We had the terrible experience of our whole family being ghosted today.

We've been desperately searching for a nanny pretty much since our last one up and quit after her wedding. It was sad and frustrating although not all that surprising to me. There were two really crappy parts to it... first my kids adored her and as a result so did I (there may have been more then one occasion I told Shane I would leave him for her), and secondly she quit through a text message (ugh millennials, shut up I know I am technically one.) Any way this search has been soul crushingly difficult. I know I am asking a lot for a person to drive half an hour out of the city and watch my children for 10 hours a day but I am only looking for two days a week, maybe more if I can get enough shifts at the three different hospitals I work at. We are also asking this person to take care of the dog during the days they are here and to hopefully be willing to switch to a city commute in a couple of months. It is a very high expectation I know, I am willing to pay decently. On top of this we have added in the challenge of Isaac being special needs with his epilepsy care. Call me crazy but when I was a nanny I would have definitely taken the job.

So back to today... after several failed interviews and even more wasted conversations we finally had found someone we thought was a pretty good fit. I had been messaging her for a couple of weeks and explained the job including all the quirky parts. We set up an interview and I got my hopes set pretty high. This morning we woke up early, dressed and fed the kids, tidied the house, and made ourselves presentable. Then we waited.... and waited... and waited.... NOTHING! Not an email, not a phone call, not an IM through the nanny board, nothing! We thought maybe she got lost. We waited an hour. Finally we gave up, had lunch and put the kids to bed. This was interspersed with toddler demands to make cookies and put up the Halloween decorations they managed to unbury from the pantry. My hopes of a beautiful angel floating into my life and lovingly caring for my children while simultaneously keeping the house from looking like a tornado struck, and walking the dog, had once again been dashed. The high hopes I had of no longer having to be awake for 36 hours in a row just to work a shift were shattered.

Guess it is back to the drawing board, or at least the nanny postings. First though it is time for sleep. I woke up and sacrificed precious pre-night shift sleep for this terrible waste of time. Maybe I will at least have some dreams of the perfect nanny... maybe I should hire the hot 20 year old manny that applied a couple months ago...